Monday, August 13, 2007

The System

The system is getting me down. Really down. It doesn't look like J will be here by next week. In fact, it could be more than a few weeks until all of the paperwork is taken care of.

I am so frustrated! We have been working closely with both states and the holdup is on our fingerprint checks. No one can call to check on these as there is no point of contact to call. What? If private industry functioned this way, then there would be hell to pay, but the gov't - SOP - standard operating procedure. Arggghhh. The thing that frustrates me most is that he would be better off here! We are family and he is currently in a group home situation. One background check has been completed - we are just waiting on two other background checks. Why everything isn't in one database further backs up my point that the system is broken. Once again if private industry worked this way...... To further compound the problem, the individuals working this case are both part timers with people that don't back them up (hence the zero return phone calls last week). I am so pissed off.

That being said, I understand that these background checks need to be completed. There are many bad people out there that would do things that I can't even imagine. I am not expecting special treatment here. I just expect people to do their jobs timely and to be accountable. Hence, background checker people - step it up. You are affecting people's lives here. It is not just more paperwork to plow through. So put down the 4th cup of coffee and get to work dammit.

Initially, we were thinking that we could have J come on an extended visit while the paperwork was in process. School does not start here until after Labor Day. So we would be able to vacation and J could start school here after Labor day. J started school today where he is so it doesn't make any sense for him to come out for an extended visit now until the paperwork is completed as I cannot register him for school here until the paperwork is completed.

ARGGGHHHHH

Okay, enough bitching, I can't change the system myself (although I am trying to think of a way to call in a favor from somewhere - so that someone could make a call to get the ball rolling - I'll let you know what I find out on this front - If you know someone let me know). Onto cycle news...

My follow up HCG is tomorrow morning. No symptoms thus far - boobs slightly sore, but that's about it. I am having some wacky dreams, but I think that's just the progesterone. Oh, and my pants are tighter; however, that could be a side affect of eating too damn much. Stress is a kicker I tell you.

I am really nervous about tomorrow. I am not sure why my clinic doesn't test for an entire week after the first beta. Everyone in blog land seems to get this test done within a couple of days. If all goes well, the scan should be about a week after that. I haven't really asked about a scan as I view tomorrow as a big hurdle. Why worry about hurdle #2 until I have to I guess.

11 comments:

Lea Bee said...

that totally sucks about J. i wish he could come be with you guys sooner.

i'll totally have my fingers crossed for you tomorrow and think healty and growing thoughts!!

My Reality said...

I hope tomorrow's beta goes well. And that you will have J with you soon. Red tape sucks.

ultimatejourney said...

That is so frustrating about J. You're right, private industry could never get away with crap like that.

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.

LJ said...

Good luck tomorrow, I really hope everything goes as planned.

Kami said...

Sorry the system has got your hands tied. I hope it gets resolved soon.

I hope tomorrows beta goes well too. My clinic tests in 2 days and then every 4 days until the first u/s. I think I would prefer going less often because each one is stressful.

Thanks for posting your kind comment on my blog today. It was just what I needed

Fertilize Me said...

I dunno what state you live in but i work for "that system" in FL and I have been bitching and bitching (and bitching)about that same crap for YRS now. I am sorry that you are victim to the system. Good luck on the HCG injection tomorrow

dmarie said...

I'm sorry things are so frustrating. I hope everything goes super well at the follow-up and J gets to be with you really soon!

Somewhat Ordinary said...

I'm sorry about all the red tape involved in getting J.

My clinic didn't do a 2nd beta for a week as well and I was concerned too. I'm not sure if it was because that is just what they do or if my 1st was high enough that they weren't concerned. I'll be thinking of you today!

Drowned Girl said...

I had my hcg checked this am, waiting on the results now. let's hope for good numbers for both of us!

Drowned Girl said...

Looking in to see if there is any news!

Foreverhopeful said...

So sorry about the delay with getting J. Hope everything speeds up and J can be with you soon!!