tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8731166828559832210.post225306168340992012..comments2023-09-22T12:31:03.649-05:00Comments on Changing Expectations: Ho Hum?Changing Expectationshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10175429623370829712noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8731166828559832210.post-11359370066409987892007-09-27T21:23:00.000-05:002007-09-27T21:23:00.000-05:00It's normal, the worrying. We've been through so m...It's normal, the worrying. We've been through so much. But you know that statistics are on your side at this point, which is good to know, at least. But the worrying is normal, and you're not alone in it.In and Out of Luckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11211825510910211158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8731166828559832210.post-47235208247724339152007-09-24T09:13:00.000-05:002007-09-24T09:13:00.000-05:00I know what you mean about feeling cautious especi...I know what you mean about feeling cautious especially when people around you don't understand. Ultimately it's your body and emotions and you have to protect yourself. I hope all goes well at the next apt.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13534236391745808702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8731166828559832210.post-67259757930505732692007-09-21T13:26:00.000-05:002007-09-21T13:26:00.000-05:00You don't sound ungrateful to me. You just sound l...You don't sound ungrateful to me. You just sound like someone who knows that things don't always go perfectly, and you are cautiously protecting your own feelings.Dr. Grumbleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09448780702110352118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8731166828559832210.post-64831269811668033312007-09-20T18:48:00.000-05:002007-09-20T18:48:00.000-05:00Great news about J! Congrats!Good luck with findin...Great news about J! Congrats!<BR/><BR/>Good luck with finding a MUCH better doctor.<BR/><BR/>I wish I could tell you that the worry completely disappears after the first trimester, but that hasn't been my experience. It does decrease significantly, though.ultimatejourneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01385256618267945461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8731166828559832210.post-79112435086615529802007-09-20T14:22:00.000-05:002007-09-20T14:22:00.000-05:00You can't help feeling all the fear and anxiety ab...You can't help feeling all the fear and anxiety about your pregnancy. You've experienced loss, and it's terrifying to think that something could happen to your little one. I hope that your appts go well with the new doctor's office. And, I pray that everything is okay with your little one!<BR/><BR/>Congrats on J finally coming!!!!!Jannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09577220349572204264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8731166828559832210.post-29316160025282837562007-09-20T12:20:00.000-05:002007-09-20T12:20:00.000-05:00Um yeah ditto the others. Yay for J coming!And you...Um yeah ditto the others. Yay for J coming!<BR/><BR/>And you are NOT alone. I'm squarely in the same place you are.<BR/><BR/>So we can keep each other company.<BR/><BR/>*hug*Serenityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17765237663006604157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8731166828559832210.post-49697917344927305962007-09-20T11:32:00.000-05:002007-09-20T11:32:00.000-05:00How exciting J will be here soon and congrats on g...How exciting J will be here soon and congrats on getting a new OB. Glad that is behind you.<BR/><BR/>I think what you are feeling is completely normal. It seems like every Infertile who does get pregnant, has a hard time enjoying and believing it. Its so normal after all you've been through.One Viewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16092873478760754270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8731166828559832210.post-50985755458849745342007-09-20T07:50:00.000-05:002007-09-20T07:50:00.000-05:00I'm hoping you find a much better OB. I'm sorry a...I'm hoping you find a much better OB. I'm sorry about all the worry. I can imagine after having to work so hard and going through much disappointment, it is hard to really believe all is well. I hope you find some relief soon.<BR/><BR/>As for J, woohoo on him finally coming!!!!Schatzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16197247859459483613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8731166828559832210.post-76551764304179671612007-09-19T20:19:00.000-05:002007-09-19T20:19:00.000-05:00Good luck to your new Dr search. Ihope this one i...Good luck to your new Dr search. Ihope this one is much better than the last. YAH CONGRATS woo hooo for getting J!AwkwardMomentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11854477296635420810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8731166828559832210.post-62966060597801187602007-09-19T20:07:00.000-05:002007-09-19T20:07:00.000-05:00SO glad J is finally coming!! You must be so exci...SO glad J is finally coming!! You must be so excited and terrified. Hopefully all will go smoothly.<BR/><BR/>As for the fear- welcome to the club! I'm finally starting to relax a bit, but it's still scary. I spotted pretty consistently up until about 12 and a half weeks. The last 2 weeks have been clear (thank goodness!). Hopefully your ultrasound will show that all is well. My fingers are crossed for you! I can't wait to hear how it all goes!Shelbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11618450893147930174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8731166828559832210.post-89493662646346741002007-09-19T19:44:00.000-05:002007-09-19T19:44:00.000-05:00I am happy to hear J is finally coming!I hope the ...I am happy to hear J is finally coming!<BR/><BR/>I hope the spotting proves to be nothing more than a nuisance.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8731166828559832210.post-63942632005971287582007-09-19T19:36:00.000-05:002007-09-19T19:36:00.000-05:00It's like you just copied a passage out of the Inf...It's like you just copied a passage out of the Infertiles Handbook. What you are feeling is normal, normal, 100% normal.<BR/><BR/>There are very few of us out there -- especially ones who have been put through the wringer that you have -- who blindly, blissfully, embrace a pregnancy in a completely worry-free fashion. It just doesn't work that way. Luckily the VAST majority of us go on to have perfectly lovely pregnancies and gorgeous, healthy babies but that doesn't make the angst of the pregnancy any easier.<BR/><BR/>As is true with most things IF-related, our spouses just don't really get it. They think we worry too much, they think we obsess too much, they think we THINK too much. While all that is true, it's just part of the territory of this whole shitty game.<BR/><BR/>When pregnant, I feel like I'm made of blown glass. Like the slightest bump or jostle is going to make the whole house of cards come crashing down. With my last pregnancy, my sister (who is also a fellow IFer) offered to come over and wrap me in bubble wrap. See, SHE gets it. <BR/><BR/>Plus, when life has dealt you so many shitty cards (particularly on the reproductive front), it's mind-numbingly difficult to believe that you've escaped it's clutches. Like the bad juju just shrugged it's shoulders and moved on to the next poor soul. I am ALWAYS expecting it to circle back to me and snatch everything away. Sad, but true.<BR/><BR/>I'm thrilled for you that J will finally be arriving. It seems like you made the right decision with that situation so trust that it will all work out. There will no doubt be bumps in the road, but hopefully everyone gets rewarded in the end.<BR/><BR/>None of this is useful in helping you work through these worries and fears, except perhaps to know that they are truly, completely and totally normal.Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11037485291342703216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8731166828559832210.post-15788005688041659622007-09-19T19:26:00.000-05:002007-09-19T19:26:00.000-05:00Congrats on J finally coming!I don't blame you for...Congrats on J finally coming!<BR/><BR/>I don't blame you for the worry. It seems once you've been affected by IF, it stays with you. So many have expressed the same feelings, so you're not alone. I hope it eases up for you a little soon.dmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04736251577259346219noreply@blogger.com